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“I Refuse To Let A Man Play Me”: Rihanna offers fan solid relationship advice

celebs 24If you didn’t know it by now, Rihanna reads the messages sent to her from both her fans and haters. We’ve seen her respond to the shade of many with her own dose of vitriol, but we’ve rarely seen her have a heart to heart with an individual on her page. According to NecoleBitchie, she did just that by deciding to respond to a young man (yes, Man) who asked her for her advice on DM (direct message) for how to deal with trust issues:

“Hey Rih, I hope it’s not a bad time to message. Just been down lately and wondering if you had any words of encouragement. Trust issues with men.”

To his surprise, the Bajan singer responded immediately with some very good advice about learning how to separate insecurities from your intuition trying to tell you things aren’t as they seem:

“Anytime I have trust issues, I often assume that it has a lot to do with myself. Most of the time it’s difficult to differentiate. Intuition and insecurities! But no one ever wants to wait to figure it out. Whatever we do, we don’t want to feel stupid! So we tend to jump the gun with no evidence to back it up. That’s the biggest mistake anyone could ever make.”

She continued:

“My advice, which is exactly what I’ve done, is if s**t isn’t making sense to me, I’m out. I mean cold turkey! I always need to step out of it to see it for what it is cuz I refuse to let a man play me. If he has no respect, he just doesn’t!

“But you don’t have to allow it or be bound by it.”

Well, hello!  That ending statement is nothing but gospel truth.

According to Necole Bitchie, the fan said he wanted to share the message with others (even though it was a private direct message between him and the star) because the advice “was way too solid not to share it with people who could benefit from it.”

And it definitely is. RiRi says, don’t wait for the ugly evidence you’re looking for that something foul is going on. If you’re being treated badly, just go on your merry way. Common sense for some, but it’s something all of us need to be reminded of from time to time. What do you make of her advice to her fan?

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  1. Evan

     /  December 17, 2013

    The girl get sense sha. Who’d ever think so?

  2. kene kingsley

     /  December 17, 2013

    Finally…. The “Good Girl That Went Bad” is coming home… Welcome back to reality, sweetie


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